Welcome to October! You made it!
Now that school is back in session and we are starting to get more of a routine in our lives (or some semblance of one), we can take a minute and start to evaluate. I encourage all of you to make a list of your ideal priorities (what you would do on a daily/weekly basis if the choice were completely up to you). Then make a list of your actual priorities (what it is that actually fills your time and your kids' time throughout the day/week). Once you've done that, determine how different they are.
This is something that a lot of us don't do. We end up allowing life to lead us through and we take a passive role as it happens to us. This is why so many of us wake up some mornings and think, "Where has the time gone??" But I would encourage you that you can take that control back, and this is a great first step for you to do that. See how different these priority lists are and then start taking some active steps to reprioritizing some things. Cut some things out of your life that might not be as important but you've just been doing because you always have. This might take some thought. Do you have a "purpose" or "mission" for your family? If not, you should! That should start with finding a purpose or mission for YOUR life. The things that are filling up your calendar, are they helping to fulfill that purpose? Things that are important to you and fulfill your purpose that you just can't find the time for can start moving back up your priority list.
I would also encourage you to do this activity with your kids. Whether they consciously know it or not, teenagers have a list of priorities too. They also have things they would like to do but can't because other priorities push them down. But the thing is, THEY HAVE NO IDEA HOW TO FIX THAT. So be an example to them in this, do it for yourselves, let them see you make some changes, and then coach them through it! I guarantee that if you do this, you will start to see some positive changes in your family and you can stop living passively!
Here's what's coming up: