Dear MSM Parents,
Students were very happy to be back together this month after our two-week break, and despite the rainy weather and a temporarily-under-construction youth room, we have had great turn-out.
February 3 is “Super Bowling Sunday”! All YOCF students (high school and middle school) are invited to go bowling at Bolero in Westchester from 1-3pm. The event is $10 per student, and you may register and find more information on the OCF webpage (https://ocfchurchelsegundo.
After covering some pretty serious topics this month with our series on forgiveness and a week on dealing with suicide, the first Wednesday in February (Feb. 6) will be an all-fun movie night! Students may wear their pj’s and bring a pillow or sleeping bag if they like (we will be camping out on the youth room floor to watch the movie). We will be watching a G-rated movie that will run about 90min, so pick-up time that evening will be 8pm instead of 7:30. Snacks of popcorn, chips and hot chocolate will be provided.
On Feb. 13 we will begin a three-week series on sexuality entitled “Made.” The basis for this series is Ps. 139:14, and the main idea is that because God made our bodies, he cares about what we do with our bodies and how we treat the bodies of others. You may view the “Series Overview” and “Parent Cue” for this series below. We will spend the rest of the month on Weeks 1, 3, and 4 of this series.
3 - Luke 8:4-18
10 - Luke 8:40-56
17 - Luke 9:1-17
24 - No MSM, Family Communion
6 - Movie Night! (Wear your PJs and bring a pillow and blanket!)
13 - Made: Week 1
20 - Made: Week 3
27 - Made: Week 4
On the outside, most young people seem happy-go-lucky, but inside each adolescent is a complex network of potentially explosive pressures. Adolescents with a strong parental and social support system are the least likely to experience the painful effects of the pressures they face. When parents become aware of the typical sources of pressure that kids face, they are better able to provide their kids encouragement and support. Here are five common pressures adolescents face:
1. The Pressure to be Perfect.
Teens repeatedly talk about their parents wanting them to be perfect, particularly in the areas of behavior and school. No kid is perfect and when they fall short of their parents' expectations, they feel more pressure.
2. The Pressure to Succeed.
The pressure to succeed elicits the attitude that life is a perpetual performance. To fail is to feel stupid. When kids fail, they fear that others will reject them.
3. The Pressure to Conform.
Kids find it extremely uncomfortable to be different from their peers; so, they work hard to fit in and be accepted by one of the subcultures on their school campus.
4. The Pressure from Body Changes.
Since consistent change is part of the developing adolescent body, teenagers are in a continual state of stress over what's happening or what's not happening.
5. The Pressure from Emotions.
Adolescence is a time of emotional development. For many teens, the strength and frequency of their emotions is much like having new emotions altogether. They are often not sure where the emotions have come from, and they are equally unsure what to do with them.
Pressure is simply going to be part of the adolescent experience. Learning to process pressure and stress is actually an important part of preparing kids to face the pressures and stresses of adulthood. Rather than trying to eradicate all pressure, the wise course for parents is to help kids manage and moderate the pressures they face so that they do not become overwhelmed as they journey toward adulthood.