October (the beginning of Hallow-Thank-Mas)
October (the beginning of Hallow-Thank-Mas)
This semester we began some exciting new things in our youth and children's ministries!
Our children began a new missions initiative on Wednesday nights called the B.I.G. idea (Being Imitators of God). Thanks to the help of our volunteers (adults and students), it has gone very well! We've had close to 20 children! More importantly, children are being taught God's heart for others in a loving environment.
Our youth began meeting on Sunday nights for Illuminate. We've mixed things up a little and begun utilizing small groups more during our time. We often have fun games to start off the night, then get into small groups, and come back together for a large group lesson. Thanks to Rebecca Marsh and Spencer Creswell, this has gone exceptionally well so far. We've come close to having 20 students!
None of this is possible without the support of our parents/guardians. Thank you for all you do to love and support these ministries.
Here to support you,
FAMILY CALENDAR 2019-2020
Click here for the family calendar.
Print this out and put it somewhere to help you keep up with the upcoming year's calendar of events. Copies can also be picked up at church.
The B.I.G. Idea Calendar:
October 2nd: Abraham Answers God's Call
October 9th: Jacob Is Forgiven
October 16th: Joseph Faces Tough Times
October 23rd: Moses Leads the Escape
October 30th: Joshua Takes Charge
MISSIONS EMPHASIS FOR OCTOBER:
The Bell Family
For more information on our missions focus, please visit the Bells to Britain page on Facebook! This family will be with us on October 2nd to talk to our children about what they'll be doing in Britain, and WHY they feel the need to go!
October 19th (Saturday)
Shelby Corn Maze (2:00-4:00pm)
For more information, go to our Facebook event page by clicking here.
(Please email John or join the event page if you plan on attending)
For the fall semester, we're walking through a series entitled "Follow." Each week we learn what it looks like to truly follow Jesus, based on what we're reading in the Gospels of Jesus.
Oct 6: Follow, The Woman at the Well
Oct 13: No youth (Camp Bud Schiele)
Oct 20: Follow, The Wise & Foolish Builder
Oct 27: No youth (Costume Party)
As a parenting author, I've seen hundreds of parenting books and read countless articles. Often, they are echoing the same principles. I'm not knocking it... I've written numerous articles about the biggies that parents often neglect, like spending more time with your kids. But here are 3 tips you don't typically hear:
1. Wanna be a good dad? Then be a good husband first.
Want your kids to feel safe, loved and valued? Then work on your marriage. We're seeing more research emerging about one of the best predictors of cognitive success being emotional stability of the home environment. Bioengineering expert Dr. John Medina said it like this, "Do you want to know how to get your kid into Harvard? Go home and love your wife."
It's this simple. When our kids are young, they are searching for clues in their home to see if they are safe. "Children look to their parents and the relationship they have with each other to assess whether that's true or not," Medina says.
2. No Rules by 17 1/2
Most people would agree toddlers need a lot of guidance. If your 2-year-old starts heading for the road when a semi-truck is coming... not many dads would say, "Leave him be. He'll learn!" At the opposite end of the spectrum, everyone knows when our teens turn 18, they can legally move out and do whatever they want. The tricky part for parents is that time in between. How much guidance and control do we assert, especially in those teenage years?
The answer is "a segue." Start with heavy guidance and slowly segue towards less control, with a goal of "no rules by 17 1/2." Sure, you could wait until 18... but why? Why not have them totally free while still under the safety of your shadow?
I tried this principle with my oldest daughter, starting with realistic guardrails, then giving more trust over the years, and eventually parenting our 17-year-old like an 18-year-old. She is 18-years-old and on her own now... and it's really no big deal. She's been making decisions for a while now.
3. Real Life Reality Shows
Parents are always looking for teaching moments. When real life hardships appear, don't be scared to talk about what you experienced. If your sister is getting a divorce, ask your teenagers what they think. What can they learn from the situation?
Real life isn't always a huge crisis. Yesterday I was driving down the road and came upon a lady trying to back her boat into a driveway... and it became quickly and painfully obvious she didn't know how to back a trailer. Cars began lining up and honking. I pulled over, walked over to her with a smile and asked, "Would you like some help?" She happily got out of the car and let me take a crack at it. Moments like these are fun to dialogue about with your kids. Don't lecture, just ask questions: "Why do you think people were so upset with her?" "How should people respond when they see someone struggling like that?" "What are ways we can show love to people in stressful situations?" "How could you help someone in need?"
Look for these real life discussion moments, or even watch entertainment together that springboards discussion about real life.