Is there anyone who actually enjoys Valentine’s Day?
For singles, it’s a glaring reminder of what we don’t have. Everyone seems to be in love. Everyone but us. And for those of us who do have significant others, it’s pressure to deliver. Deliver gifts. Candy. Jewelry. Romance.
And how do our kids factor into Valentine’s Day? Do we buy them candy? Don’t we spend half our life trying to keep them away from sugar? Do we buy them cards? What if they can’t read? It all just sort of seems wasteful, doesn’t it?
So how will we get through this Valentine’s Day without feeling lonely or overwhelmed? But more than that, how can we leverage the momentum of the “holiday” to benefit our families?
When it comes to Valentine’s Day, it’s preschoolers who have it made. Their biggest concern is whether to get the Dora Valentine’s or the Jake the Pirate ones. For them, it’s just another day. But it doesn’t have to be. Here are a few ways to make Valentine’s count for your preschooler:
A few weeks before Valentine’s Day, begin asking your preschooler, “When does Mommy or Daddy love you?”.
Do I love you when you get spaghetti in your hair? Yes.
Do I love you when you clean up room your room? Yes.
Do I love you when obey? Yes.
Do I love you when you disobey? Yes.
End the game the same way each time by asking, When does Mommy or Daddy love you? All the time.
Then, on Valentine’s Day, change it up. Introduce the idea of God loving your child.
Do you know who loves you even MORE than I love you? God. He does! He created you. He made your nose and your eyes and your hair. Do you know when God loves you?
Does God love you when you color on the walls? Yes.
Does God love you when you share with friends? Yes.
Tell your child that Valentine’s Day is the day you celebrate love—how you love and how God loves them. Spend the day saying, “When does God love you? All the time!”
When your children enter elementary school, Valentine’s Day becomes a bigger deal. There’s a calendar countdown, shoeboxes are slathered with gluey-pink paper to become mail receptacles, and you can guarantee that boxes of conversation hearts will find their way into at least one classroom activity. We think you can use this heightened awareness for their benefit.
A few days before Valentine’s Day, sit down with your kid and talk about what it means to really love. (Love means putting others before ourselves.) Use the Bible to give you language—John 12:35, 1 Corinthians 13:1, John 13:34, John 15:13. Talk to your kid about ways we can love others. Then, sit down and write your ideas down on paper hearts. Then, on Valentines Day, draw random acts of kindness and complete them with your kid.
Here are some ideas:
- Open a door for a stranger
- Write a thank you note to your teacher
- Make up your sibling’s bed
- Give some of your allowance to charity
- Talk to someone new at school
Redefine Valentine’s Day this year. Not just for your kids—but for you, too.