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The Top 10 Influencers on Today’s Kids
David R. Smith
When I was growing up, every guy I knew wanted to be like Michael Jordan. That universal desire was even turned into one of the most famous TV commercials of all time. Today’s kids are no different; they have their idols, too.
The difference is, you may never have heard of them.
Pied Pipers
A couple of times each year, the global investment firm and financial services provider known as Piper Jaffray releases the results of their “Taking Stock with Teens Survey.” If you’re wondering why a bank cares about what teens like…here’s why. Jaffray’s 38th Semi-Annual Taking Stock With Teens Survey (Fall 2019) was just released and offers some really intriguing insights on the preferences of our nation’s youngest generation. Here are just a few:
Their infographic provides a great snapshot of who Gen Z is, but by far, the most fascinating piece in their report focused on the “celebrities” and “influencers” that have Gen Z’s attention. Let’s walk through the Top 5 in each of those two categories together.
Top Celebrities
Top Influencers
Meeting the Movers and Shakers
More than likely, there was someone on this list you didn’t know five minutes ago. Great! That’s why we write these Youth Culture Window articles! But what about the hundreds of other celebrities and influencers vying for our kids’ attention and dollars? How do we know who they are? How can we best understand their values? What kind of impact might they have on our kids? How do our kids feel about conventional celebrities versus online celebrities? All of those are good questions. Here are two simple tips that will help you with whatever – and whoever – comes next.
And finally, remember that just because these “influencers” influence the world, they don’t need to be the top influencers in your home. No, I’m not saying you need to attempt to block out these influencers…or not block them out. I’m simply suggesting, don’t become so focused on blocking lies that you forget to talk about the truth.
David R. Smith is the author of several books including Christianity... It's Like This and speaks to parents and leaders across the U.S. David is a 15-year youth ministry veteran, now a senior pastor, who specializes in sharing the gospel, and equipping others do the same. David provides free resources to anyone who works with teenagers on his website, DavidRSmith.org David resides with his wife and son in Tampa, Florida.
Why pedophiles and sex traffickers are loving social media
Jonathan McKee
It’s by far the biggest problem with social media right now…and I don’t think Instagram or YouTube ever saw it coming. It’s affecting the online safety of our kids and creating a pressurized environment that’s wreaking havoc on their mental health. It’s that little number on the top center of your Instagram account.
“Followers.”
On YouTube it’s called “subscribers.” With Snapchat it’s “friends.” And every one of these descriptors has a number attached to it… and that number is changing everything.
Here’s the thing. Nine out of ten teenagers now carry a device around in their pocket that has a real-time number telling them exactly how popular…or unpopular…they are. And if you think that kids are not influenced by that one little number…think again.
More Followers Please
When I was a kid I wanted to be Magnum P.I. Nice car, lived in Hawaii… and every girl I knew thought he was hot.
My friend David wanted to be Michael Jordan.
But now young people’s eyes are set on a different horizon.
Ypulse research just conducted a survey revealing that 72% of Gen Z (age 24 and below) would like to be an online celeb (compared to 55% of Millennials), emphasis on the word “online.” We’re not talking about Will Smith or Ariana Grande, we’re talking about David Dobrick, Emma Chamberlain or PewDiePie. You may not recognize these names, but your kids do. These are all individuals whose YouTube or Instagram pages launched them to fame (and fortune).
Seven in ten young people want that. They don’t want to be a doctor, a lawyer, a fireman…or a private investigator in Hawaii… they want to be an Instaceleb. And because of this, seven in ten young people feel the need to attract more followers (and the other three want them too). Followers convey value.
“How many followers do you have?”
“746. But Christina has 1249.”
Christina must be more valuable than me.
Consider how this “lens” is affecting the way young people view their world.
This churning desire for followers has birthed two unanticipated dangers: one in the area of online safety, and the other in the area of mental health.
Let’s take a closer look at each:
1. Stranger Friends
The concept of “don’t talk to strangers” is soooooooo yesterday. Now strangers are merely potential followers.
You have a friend request.
“Cool, this nice guy named Ted Bundy wants to follow me! Yasssss!”
Anything that makes that number of followers go up is good, right?
Let this whole paradigm sink in for a moment. Today’s young people aren’t worried about “privacy” anymore. They either have switched their accounts to public (so anyone can follow) or they are saying yes to as many people as possible.
What does this mean for online safety?
It means that most young people today have “followers” who aren’t who they seem.
Last week I was talking to kids in public school assemblies about this dilemma. In preparation for the assemblies I scanned the school’s Instagram account, found student profiles linked to the school and began clicking and scrolling through some of the profiles. The overwhelming majority were public, so anyone could view them. Not surprising, many of the girls posted pics a little too revealing.
Here’s where it got a little bit scary: if you looked at the comments on many of those posts, you’d find responses from “modeling agencies” who requested the student to DM (direct message) them. I “shared” some of these profiles to a contact I know in the LAPD Human Trafficking Unit, and she told me that these “modeling” agencies are rarely who they say they are. In fact, the majority of sex crimes involving the internet begin just like this—predators on social media posing as someone they’re not.
And these were just typical Insta profiles at an ordinary high school in small town Kansas.
It’s happening more frequently than you want to know about, especially with vulnerable girls who are looking for love outside their current home environment.
Three weeks ago I was at my doctor’s office and the nurse asked me what I did for a living. I told her I was an author and most of my speaking right now was to parents and schools about teens and screens. As I told her a little bit about the struggles principals and school administrators were having, especially in the area of girls regretting sharing revealing pics… this nurse’s eyes began to tear up.
“You know someone who this happened to, don’t you?” I asked.
“My niece.” She said, wiping a tear from her cheek. “When she was in foster care she met a teenage guy online, one thing led to another and she snuck out to meet him…
He wasn’t a teenager at all. She was trafficked to Vegas.”
I wish it was the only time I heard stories like this.
Literally every time I speak about this in some random city across the U.S. someone will come up to me and share their firsthand experience of their son or daughter meeting a guy online, building a relationship, only to eventually discover it wasn’t who they thought it was. Often these stories have horrifying endings.
And rural towns are not immune from this. Last week when I spoke on this subject in “nowhere” North Dakota, a youth leader approached me when I was finished speaking and told me one of their biggest struggles on their youth trips was that their teenagers wanted to sneak out and meet up with “strangers” they had met on Instagram.
What’s the solution?
Here’s several safety precautions parents can practice:
But online safety isn’t the only unwelcomed product of the desire for more followers…
2. Not As Many As Her
I met a girl who had more Instagram followers than anyone in her school, but still seemed distressed about the size of the number.
“What’s wrong?” I asked. “Looks like you’ve got a lot of friends.”
“Yeah,” she sighed. “But not as much as Kylie Jenner.”
Kylie Jenner is a self-made billionaire with 141 million Instagram followers.
In a world where 97% of teens have access to social media and 89% of teens have a smartphone in their pocket…
the overwhelming majority of young people are constantly being reminded what fame and fortune looks like…and that they don’t have it.
Perhaps that’s why we’re seeing an unprecedented spike in teen anxiety, depression and even suicide in teenagers today.
Social Media giants like Instagram have recognized the effect these apps can have on the mental health of young people. In fact, Insta is testing a feature in 7 different countries that will hide from your followers the number of “likes” you receive, hoping to create “a less pressurized environment where people feel comfortable expressing themselves.”
Time will tell. If only they’d do the same with the number of followers.
So what can parents do to help their kids avoid these self-inflicted feelings that they just don’t measure up? Here’s a few ways to build into the self-esteem of generation screen:
If your kid wants to be the next PewDiePie, you don’t need to crush his dreams. But remember, if your kid wanted to be a Nascar driver, you probably wouldn’t let him start driving at 12-years-old. Same is true with that device in their pocket. Age restrictions and screen limits are very healthy, especially when balanced with a comfortable climate of continuing conversations about what wise posting looks like in an insecure world.
Are you engaging your kids in these conversations?
Jonathan McKee is the author of over twenty books including the brand new The Guy's Guide to FOUR BATTLES Every Young Man Must Face; The Teen’s Guide to Social Media & Mobile Devices; If I Had a Parenting Do Over; and the Amazon Best Seller - The Guy's Guide to God, Girls and the Phone in Your Pocket. He speaks to parents and leaders worldwide, all while providing free resources for parents on his website TheSource4Parents.com. Jonathan, his wife Lori, and their three kids live in California.
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